Sex Worker in Your Hotel – Telltale Signs

Sex WorkerThe hotel industry doesn’t like to talk about it and you definitely won’t learn about it at a college that teaches you hotel management.  But, start working in a hotel and it won’t be long before you’ve checked in a sex worker.  Whatever you want to call someone who works the oldest profession in the world – sex worker, escort, prostitute, hooker, call girl/guy, lady (or man) of the night – they’re a reality of the job.

Unfortunately there are many hotels around the world that tolerate sex workers, often letting them conduct business in the hotel bar or nightclub where they recruit clients.  There are even hotels that “employ” sex workers as part of the establishment off the books.  Sadly, these women are more often than not victims of human trafficking and if you find yourself working at one of these hotels I would advise you to resign and alert the authorities.  However, for the sake of this post I will be focusing on the sex worker who does not have a “business arrangement” with the hotel.

Negative Attention from a Sex Worker

Everyone who works in a hotel should know the signs of how to spot a sex worker, especially management and front desk agents.  Even though sex workers and their clients try to be discreet they can sometimes draw unwanted attention from other guests and this is why you need to be aware of when they’re in your hotel.  You do not want any negative attention brought to the business from a guest who recognized that your hotel was being used by a sex worker.  Whether in the form of an online review, social media or word of mouth any negative attention could be a disaster.

Signs of a Sex Worker Checking In

Contrary to what Hollywood might have you believe not all sex workers look like Julia Roberts and with that in mind here are some signs that the person checking into your hotel might be a sex worker.

Low to Mid-Range Hotel:

  • Client wants to pay cash at check-in. This is the number one signal.  The guest practically has a flashing neon sign above his head that the person checking in with him is a hired sex worker.

  • Sex worker and client are looking for a convenient place to conduct business. Often an hour or more from the client’s home.  You can see the client’s address when you check their identification.

  • Most often a walk-in with no prior reservation.

  • Do not look like a couple. Significant age gap with older male client.  Different ethnic profiles.

  • The client does the entire interaction with the front desk agent while the sex worker sits quietly in the lobby.

  • Client is nervous at check-in. Speaks fast and tries to be too friendly with small talk.  Fumbles with his wallet and pen.  Misses where to initial on the registration card.  Client is paying an hourly rate and wants the check-in process to be as fast as possible.

If you work in a higher end hotel (4 stars and above) there will be less of a chance of a sex worker drawing unwanted attention to the business.

High End Hotel:

  • Not obvious to spot.

  • Tend to travel solo.

  • Dress glamorous as if they’re going out to a fine dining restaurant or wear professional business like clothes.

  • Clients are often travelling and will stay the night. Sex worker is on an hourly rate and will leave at the conclusion is business.

  • Know which room the client is staying in prior to arriving and will bypass front desk by going straight to that room.

Check-Out is When You Realize!

Let’s say that you missed all of the signs listed above.  Check-out is the last stage when it finally hits you that a sex worker has just completed a “transaction” at your hotel.  The big giveaway is when a couple checks out just a few hours after they checked in.  Why would they be checking out so early you might be thinking?  They’re likely to give you one of these reasons as they hand their keys back over the front desk:

  • “We’ve been driving a while and just wanted to rest. Have a shower and get something to eat” (even though they never left the room or ordered food).

  • “We decided we’ll keep driving. We’ve only got a couple of hours to our destination”.

  • “We got a phone call. Family emergency.”

Yet with these reasons the guest does not want any discount off the room rate even though they are not staying the night!

What Can You Do?

It would be ideal to refuse a sex worker business at check-in but most of the world has laws against this and in locations with such laws there is still no way to be 100% sure that a guest checking in is without doubt a sex worker and that’s discrimination.  Until legislation changes sex workers will continue to be an unspoken but commonly known and reluctantly tolerated part of the hotel industry.  As a hotel manager you can educate your staff to recognize when a sex worker is or, has been on site and to implement systems that minimize any damage to the reputation of your business.

Checking out,


Thanks for reading

  • Do you feel that sex workers are something hotel management and staff should be prepared for?

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9 Replies to “Sex Worker in Your Hotel – Telltale Signs”

  1. Is it a problem if you don’t spot it? I mean, clearly it it’s undesirable to have sex workers in your hotel. However, if you only spot them at check out, is any harm done? Are they likely to trash the room or anything like that? Just wondering.

    • It’s not a problem if you don’t spot it. If you notice them making regular visits to the hotel then you know something’s up and they can be added to the DNR (Do Not Rent) list.
      The reason hotel’s don’t want them conducting business on site is because it increases the odds of trouble and police showing up at the hotel. Worst case scenario the sex worker and their client have a disagreement which gets heated and draws unwanted attention from police and other guests.

  2. As a note, most of these are also signs of infidelity taking place. I don’t tend to moralize much about what folks did in the hotel after I checked them in, and focused on business, so to me these are all signs that I need to be extra discreet about the occupants of that room. I don’t need either of them busted for anything, regardless of which case we’re talking about. Obviously, the infidelity case has a lower chance of police involvement, although a domestic dispute isn’t much better than a prostitution bust (assuming you’re skilled enough to get out ahead of things

    Often (in both cases) one party will check in, and let the other in through a side door, or will just notify the other party of their room number (as stated in the high end section). General rule of thumb I used to use was to try to keep these near a side door as best I could, away from other guests, if I detected them at check in.

  3. Im an independent sex worker. I use different hotels to see my punters.i simply give them my room number and they come on up to my room. We do what consenting adults do, i get paid and they leave…not with me. At no time am i seen with the client. Alot of hotels probably realise that women like me are perfect guests..we are quiet, private and bother no one. just offering a service, its as simple as that. I leave the room clean. Dont tar us all with the same brush and let us get on with the job we do..

    • Hi Phillipa

      I’ve been wanting to do incalls from hotels but not sure which ones are the best for clients to not have to meet the receptionist first.

      Can you help?

  4. Probably the biggest hunk of garbage I have ever read. You are basically training your staff to stereotype and judge based on red flags that aren’t really red flags at all.

    Most of the actions and descriptions of potential sex works you have listed on your poorly written article can clearly be applied to anyone who wants to pay cash or anyone who wants to stay for a few hours etc…. News flash…. for example most people that go to low budget motels like motel 6 most likely don’t have a credit card to pay for a Hilton or a Marriott…. They will most likely be paying with cash at the Motel 6 or whatever low budget whatever.. additionally, there are people who have flights multiple hours in advance and would rather just hang out at the hotel for a few hours before leaving… Also, you must not live in a big city because many couples are of two different ethnicities, especially in America.. maybe not in Utah or whatever town you most likely reside in but this form of stereotyping is unethical at best.

  5. Additionally, why are you training hotel staff to be nosy? Isn’t this the “hospitality” industry? The only thing you people should be worried about is checking people in and out of the hotel. If any guest (and they all should be treated as paying guests and not be accused of being sex workers and being policed around) is causing major problems that disturb other guests, then only then hotel staff can look into the situation… since when was there a need to act like the police at a hotel?? What agenda are you trying to push? At the end of the day the hotel should be worried about rooms being filled, not dig into the lives of the people who occupy them. People who write these types of articles are clearly trying to push an “agenda” that doesn’t make sense and only makes the hospitality industry much less hospitable, If you guys are so worried about sex workers, you should join the proper industry that focuses on them such as law enforcement or the FBI…

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